The idea of sexual intimacy changes all the time for us. At
one point in life, we’re craving for it and at another point, we’re
feigning headaches to avoid it.
At the beginning, you can’t keep your hands off your lover no
matter where you are but as the relationship grows, sex can start to
feel more like a chore if you haven’t created ways to make sex feel more
exciting.
The untold sex secrets you need to know
Firstly, sex isn’t a secret. It’s natural and as humans, we’ve been
doing it for a very long time. Sex isn’t a secret, but the ways to
ensure that sex stays exciting in a monogamous relationship, well,
that’s definitely a secret worth knowing.
The biggest sex secret you need to know is the recipe for perfect
romance. And it needs just two ingredients, unconditional love and
lustful passion. If you can truly love each other AND stay sexually
attracted to each other even after several years of marriage or dating
each other, you’re definitely in the right path.
If you want to have a great sex life and keep the sizzle of sexual
attraction alive in your relationship, even years after lying in the
same bed with each other, you need to understand these 13 sex secrets.
These sex secrets will help you understand what it takes to feel sexy,
and keep your partner interested in you, and give you the perfect
romance that will be envied by other couples.
#1 Sex isn’t all physical attraction but… It’s
been said that romantic sex isn’t all about physical appearances, but we
all know that good looks can increase the sex appeal by a long way.
Work out and try to look better for each other. The fitter you look, the
sexier you’d look and feel, and that’ll definitely increase your sex
appeal and make you a better lover too.
#2 Attention makes you sexy. The more you’re
admired by other members of the opposite sex, the more your partner will
sexually desire you and stay interested in you. Attention from the
opposite sex always has this effect on our partners. In a long term
relationship, both partners would start to take each other’s sex appeal
for granted. After all, when something’s easily accessible, it’s easy to
overlook its value. But when your partner is standing in a crowd and
getting everyone’s attention, that’s when you’d realize just how awesome
and sexy your partner truly is.
#3 Regular sex is monotonous sex. Sex always gets
monotonous and boring if you don’t try something new every now and then.
Sex isn’t just about penetration. It’s what you do with each other
before, during and after sex that makes lovemaking feel more special.
#4 Talking is sexy. When two lovers talk about
sex, it helps each other understand the other partner’s desires and
expectations better. Talking about sex even when you’re not having sex
is always great for the relationship. So don’t be a prude, speak up and
your sex will only get better.
#5 Hide your sexy bits. Don’t be naked all the
time in front of your partner. The more you walk around naked in the
bedroom when you’re not getting intimate, the more both of you will end
up sexually desensitized. Dress up and don’t reveal it all at once.
#6 Missionary rules. The missionary position is
the most comfortable and the most intimate of sex positions. Evolution
has taught us to have sex while facing each other, and that’s something
very few species can do. Use it to build the romantic connection, but
every now and then, try to vary the positions.
#7 Sexy imagination. Whether you accept it or not,
your mind would definitely stray while having sex with your partner.
It’s obviously not easy to just stare into each other’s eyes for a good
half an hour with a blank head. Instead of hiding your thoughts while
making love, talk about it. Exploring each other’s imagination in bed is
a sexy rush that’ll make sex a lot more exciting and lustful.
#8 Sex is happiness. Having sex regularly makes
you a happy person. Just like working out or shopping, sex too
stimulates the release of endorphins that make you feel good about
yourself. Sex can relieve a headache, eliminate stress, and make you
feel calmer and more confident at an interview. So instead of avoiding
sex when you’re stressed, indulge in it. It’ll make you and your partner
feel better and bond better too.
#9 Men and women and the way they look at sex. Men
and women just don’t look at lovemaking the same way. Men are visual
creatures that are aroused by what they see physically, while women are
more aroused by emotional intimacy and what they hear and feel while
making love.
#10 Drunk sex. Intoxicants like alcohol can at
times be the biggest aphrodisiacs. Alcohol in small amounts reduces
inhibition, which makes you open up more and feel relaxed while getting
undressed in the company of another person. Alcohol consumption in males
reduces the testosterone levels which reduces their libido
proportionally to the alcohol they consume. On the other hand, alcohol
consumption increases the testosterone levels in women. For most women,
increase in alcohol consumption creates an increase in sexual
satisfaction during orgasms.
#11 Dress up and look sexy. Look your best around
your partner instead of dressing down in frayed overalls all the time.
If you can do that right, there’s a good chance that your partner won’t
cheat on you.
#12 Foreplay is a big part. The longer the
foreplay, the more intense the orgasms and the pleasure both of you
experience. So the next time both of you are under the sheets, don’t go
straight for the big act. Take your time to warm up, and the sex will
last a lot longer. And good foreplay can even help a man who’s having a
hard time staying up stay up for longer.
#13 True love doesn’t define a perfect romance. True
love is not the same as intense sexual attraction. This is the biggest
sex secret that can quash a lot of misconceptions about romantic
relationships. Experiencing true love will not give you the perfect
relationship. True love is love. But a perfect relationship needs more.
It needs love and lust to be successful.
When you’re in a relationship, don’t just hold hands and walk down a
street and assume you’re in the perfect romance. Push your partner
against a wall now and then and make out too. Well, then you’d
definitely have the perfect blend of love and lust, the perfect
ingredients for romantic love.
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